foot in mouth

men:// face value, sometimes blunt, more straightforward than the opposite sex, seem to like to tell it as it is....

is that the truth?

women://over-analyzing, coy, should play "hard-to-get", always expects the opposite sex to "understand" where they come from

really?


so if men and women really embody these stereotypes, one would think that it would be a good thing to mix it up. Such as a woman being straightforward and honest and men playing more of the mysterious role.
Not in the slightest would that work...majority rule in this subject.
Most women are not going to wear their heart on their sleeve, and if they do they are considered easy and disregarded.
Most men don't want to be perceived as emotional or sensitive so they will not be more coy or "hard-to-get"

By instinct they are hunters, they enjoy a fine chase.

They don't want their ladies to be too available or easy to contact...they want it to be hard as to feel accomplished when they get what they want.

Am I right?

It sounds so categorized...but isn't it true?

I've never had a good experience with a guy when I told him upfront, "I like you."
In fact that killed whatever there may have been.
In a sense I was too easy.
Too available...

What is wrong with that?

Normally, if you like someone you want to spend time with them and get to know them...
I can understand that it can become overbearing and an invasion of space, but geeze...you just communicate and assess your situation.

Why can't people be honest with each other?
I think it's because no one wants to hear it.

And as I have recently relearned in the past day, I may have strong opinions, but they are not meant to be shared with everyone. So perhaps this is the same thing...if you like someone you should probably just keep your mouth shut.

Involve

Is this something I want to get myself into?

My priorities this year are focusing on myself…doing well in school, creating a better portfolio, meeting new people, and making enough unfortunate money to afford the things I desire. I’m starting off pretty well, if I may say so; living a good life, this semester hasn’t been too difficult, however, we are all only heading into the 3rd week.

I am determined in life to experience as much as I can; good and bad just go hand in hand. Critical decisions are coming to surface, and that’s why I question…if I should become involved in an uncertain situation.

“What’s life without a little risk?” vs. “Stick with what you know”

Recently, a failed love attempted his way back into my life. I’m not sure how to take this surprising effort. I honestly wasn’t expecting to ever hear from this person again, and I wasn’t going to contact him. His implications and our talks got me curious as to what he wanted. Needless to say it is rather confusing, yet the idea of trying again was implied…last December we started a pretty great relationship, everything seemed to be swell, we got along, connected, and enjoyed being around each other and then within the last of the six months that we were together, it seemed to all fall apart. The way it seems, in retrospect, we started clashing. Avoidance and a lack in communication pushed us over the edge. I got the feeling that he didn’t want to be there and I was overly underappreciated.

So with that in mind, is it worth thinking about again if things were to change for the better? Or would we clash once more with differing personalities and not necessarily morals, but perspectives?



So we are at a stand still.

Is this a worthless consideration, or something to think about?

I don’t think I’m ready for the kind of relationship that was had. It was too serious for something that should’ve been an experience in getting to know one another.

I just not sure if this could be a good thing.I’m open to any feedback.

change?

I have a new neighbor…as of today, I believe. I’m not sure of her age or appearance, but I know she speaks her mind through her bumper stickers. Not to say all people who post opinions on their cars are outspoken…but it does cause a small riot within someone else with different views; especially if they are strong believers in their own thoughts.
Hopefully she is like her car. Outgoing. I think we would get along.

I’ve been looking at myself lately…analyzing…
Is it the matter of a lack of self-confidence or is it really that I admire so many qualities in people, that I want to share in them as well?

Am I that impressionable?

Personally, I’d like to think that I am trying experiences for myself to answer my own questions…and I suppose that shouldn’t matter to what other people perceive.
However, when I think back on it…I let people really influence me.
I know what I like, but around people I admire I switch my thinking.

Open-minded or impressionable?

This leads me to want to experiment…to not see anyone I know for a week or two…but I couldn’t do that, I really wouldn’t want to. If this is part of my “self discovery” then I want my friends to be there and take part.
My inspirations come from an array of people, and I feel that those qualities that I admire in those people give me aspirations of being a better person. So I shouldn’t question myself. Everything’s been done before; I’m just trying it at my own pace.